Law of Attraction

How to Focus Your Magical Magnifying Mind

Mindset is everything, or so it’s said. Regardless of the situation, how we approach it is what determines the outcome. Why is that? Can we really accomplish anything we want through our thoughts alone? Could one really make the argument that regardless of the obstacles our attitude is more important? 

Our mind is the seed from which our whole reality blossoms. It dictates everything we experience. Even objective reality becomes subjective when funneled through the magnifying lens of our minds. A great example of this is optical illusions. Both halves of the picture exist, but depending on which one we focus on, that is what we see. 

How we handle events in our life determines what kind of character traits we develop. In theory, you can be anyone you want to be, but you are who you are because you chose to be that way. If you are an introvert, it’s because you enjoy those quiet settings more. If you are a party animal, it’s because you feel most fulfilled in that environment. Even reading this article you may say, “wow that’s awesome! I can be anyone!” Or you may think, “so you’re telling it’s my fault my life is this way?!”

In truth, we may feel differently about this at different points in our life. I know I do. I believe some things do “happen to us”. For instance, the death of a loved one. Some things are unavoidable. However, it’s our response to these situations which creates the outcome, more so than the tangible event. A lot of times, these unfortunate events are important lessons for us to learn from. If we are able to keep our mind open. 

We get better, or we get bitter.

Think of the most recent “bump in the road” you had. How did you handle it? Did you think, “why does this have be happening right now?” Perhaps you were upset for a little, but felt better after you ate something. Or did it bother you like a pebble in your shoe for the rest of the day? Regardless of what it was, your thoughts created how “severe” the situation was for you.

Now think of the last crisis you had. How did you handle that one? Usually the events we deem as a “crisis” are the ones we fear a lot more. They may require us to do a lot more work to get back to normal or we predict they will last a long time.

What were your thoughts like during both of the experiences? Surely they weren’t too positive to begin with, but think about how quickly you were able to turn them around. With the little things, we tend to do this a lot faster. These problems can usually be solved easily, or we can tell from our physical discomfort that we are actually upset about something else. What tends to separate the small problems from the big ones, is how much mental energy we are putting into the situation.

Emotions are energy in motion. The more of our thoughts we put towards an event, the more energy we are feeding it. If we are smart about how we apply this, we can feed energy into the things we want and snuff out anything we don’t. 

If I want a specific outcome, I can feed energy into by thinking about it more. Making the outcome as detailed in my mind as it would be if it were reality. The more energy I put into it, the more certain I can be it will happen. I believe we can all look back at times in our life when this happened and we didn’t even know it. 

So, if I want something to not happen, I need to not think about it then, right? Yes, you could do that, but it might be harder than you think. Emotions are energy in motion. If you want something to not happen, it’s probably because you have an emotional attachment to it. Otherwise you wouldn’t care. Now, think back to high school physics class. An object in motion will stay in motion unless it is stopped by something else and that “something else” has to be strong enough to endure the kinetic energy of the moving object. However, it takes a lot less effort to redirect the energy.

This is why a lot of people find exercise to be therapeutic. You are moving the energy in your mind, into your body, and then releasing it through physical movement. The energy has to move somewhere. Why not out into the world?

Another way to redirect the energy is through something creative. If we enjoy art, playing music, dancing or any number of other creative activities, then the energy can be expressed through this medium. The energy doesn’t even have to be expressed in the same form. If we are sad, we don’t have to make something sad. It can be transmuted into whatever we want! Although, it may feel cathartic to express it in the same form.

Lastly, you can transmute your emotions by changing the way you are thinking. Take the same energy that is going into thinking negatively and think of a positive outcome! Think about how it could be a beneficial situation. Think about how it is actually working in your favor. All the energy we put into worrying creates an elaborate crisis in our head. Use that energy to create an elaborate delight, down to the last detail. A positive thought holds three times the energy of a negative one! So it’s going to turn out better than alright.

Now if the energy stays in your mind, it will eventually run itself out. Just like a jogger has to stop at some point. Although this method can leave us physically exhausted, even if we haven’t done anything. The brain can use up to 80% of the sugar in our body, so sitting there and stewing on something actually takes up a lot of your brain power. If you have any doubts, go ahead and be angry for a few hours. You’ll know exactly what I’m talking about.

So how we direct the energy in our thoughts and our emotions is what allows us to create our reality. If we want something to be different, we have the power to change it. We can make the decision to achieve our dreams regardless of what obstacles come up. Oh, and obstacles WILL come up. But you have the power to push through them. You have an idea of the life you want to live and the person you want to be. Although, you probably don’t know everything required along the way to get there. Think of those obstacles as the experiences that are shaping you into that person. With each trial, you are becoming more like your future self.

I hope this article helped you in some way. If you are interested in a coaching session, make sure to check out my Book a Lesson tab and don’t forget to pay a visit to my developing YouTube Channel. I wish you the best of luck on your journey.

To my fellows, may your seeking be fruitful and your findings bountiful! 


Sexual Transmutation: The Basics

For many young males, November is the start of sexual disciplining practice (whether they realize it or not). The idea of “No Nut November” started around 2011 as an internet challenge encouraging men to not masturbate for 30 days during the month of November. What started as a joke, turned into a popular fad for young males. Ironically, sexual discipline has been written about in nearly every ancient culture and spiritual practice around the world. No Nut November is perhaps a resurgence of this knowledge into the conscious mind.

While the practice of No Nut November (NNN) is primarily targeted towards males, the principles of sexual discipline can benefit any females reading this article. There are many health benefits related to sexual transmutation in addition to being a spiritual practice.

In ancient times, the practice of sex was very sacred and held many more repercussions than it does today. A large portion of women would die during childbirth and depending on the time of year, carrying a child could put significant strain on the woman. In more spiritually advanced cultures, the people also understood the divine union taking place during sex and with the occurrence of an orgasm. 

Not that it kept civilizations from using contraceptives. Birth control practices and abortions date back as far as 1850 B.C. from what we can gather. A variety of plants or less effective forms of condoms were made. In many cases these were ineffective. Abortion methods often had some level of risk involved as they were design to induce a miscarriage. 

The difference between then and now isn’t as big as some may think and like today, only a select few on a spiritual path ever seek sexual transmutation. Here’s why.


As spiritual beings, we come into this incarnation to experience duality. One of the biggest dualities we experience is spirit and body. We have the higher self/soul/superego on one hand, and on the other we have animal instinct/id on the other. When walking a spiritual path, this internal battle will arise time and time again.

Whenever we engage in a practice which inherently goes against the animal instincts of the body, we are disassociating with that part of our “self”. A dog will never choose to miss a meal for the purpose of spiritual growth. The dog sees its entire being as “the dog”. As humans, we have the ability of mind over matter. We can make the decisions to not eat, partake in sex, and consciously overcome our fears. All of these function as ways of disassociating with the finite lifespan of the physical body.

When we choose to abstain from sex for a period of time, we are consciously making the decisions to disassociate from the physical body. As a result we identify more with the spiritual body. We become less bound by the needs of our body and gain the capacity to make decisions from the perspective of soul.

Cultivation of Energy

When a human abstains from sex, they will naturally accumulate energy in their body. The Taoists write about the three Dan T’ian fires. They are generators of energy within the body and each serves a purpose. The Lower Dan T’ian fire sits in the same place as the Sacral Chakra from Yogic traditions. It is responsible for generating energy within the body. If it is depleted too often by sexual orgasms, the body must draw upon the Door of Life for energy. This area is connected to the adrenal glands and the kidneys. 

This is very important, specifically for men, as each ejaculation releases an incredible amount of energy. It contains the power to create life and consciousness. A man who ejaculates too frequently will have to draw on his energy reserves (door of life) and is likely to experience fatigue, irritability, and a weakness of spirit as he too frequently is releasing his own life energy. 

For women the process is a little bit different. Menstruation releases energy and would be equivocal to the ejaculation of a man. Because of this, women aren’t able to build up as much energy as man would, but they are also not as heavily depleted from intercourse as a man is (we all know the joke of men falling asleep after sex). What this means for women is they are naturally more intune with the cycles of their body. However, excessive orgasm can still drain energy from the kidneys.

Health Benefits

There is a lot of misinformation surrounding sexual behavior. My personal philosophy is balance and pragmatism so I will do my best to address both sides.

On one hand, if an individual cultivates too much sexual energy in their body without ever releasing, it can be damaging. In western science this has been connected to prostate cancer for men. A less serious and more common example would be increased stress and overactive sexual thoughts. This is a result of the energy building up yet remain stagnant.

On the other hand, something I have found only to be addressed in spiritual traditions, is the use of sexual energy to replenish and heal the body. When sexual energy is transmuted and moved up through the body through exercises like Qigong or Yoga, it will nourish the cells of that organ. Everything is connected to a field of energy and the process of living draws energy from this field. Some things take more energy, some take less, regardless, sexual transmutation restores the energy in this field. When there is a positive surplus of energy, the individual will feel vitality and energetic. 

The key difference being, illness can be brought about with stagnation of energy where health can be brought about with motion and circulation of energy. 

Spiritual Connection

The last thing I want to touch on is the necessity of sexual energy in the rising of kundalini energy. Kundalini energy is the name I will use, however, it has been known as The Sleeping Dragon in Taoism and The Descent of the Holy Spirit in Christianity. What is important to know is your sexual energy is required to move kundalini energy up the spine. The sexual energy acts as the driving force behind the rising of energy and if it is too frequently depleted, there will be less to move upward.

The practice of celibacy originated from this knowledge. Over time it has been distorted into being associated with hyper rigid religious views. Most people are also unaware of its purpose and if they engage in it, it is likely because of the shame they received from others. However, many monastic traditions practice celibacy. These practices are found around the world. It is not inherent to any one religion.

Unfortunately, the amount needed is fairly ambiguous. It varies depending on the stage of life, as well as the individual’s physical constitution; some people inherit more energy from their parents. I believe the best practice to simply be diligent. Temporarily abstaining from intercourse will allow the energy to accumulate and with proper transmutation exercises, the energy will have an opportunity to rise. 

It’s also important to know the rising of kundalini energy and spiritual experiences are related but not the same. It is possible to have spiritual experiences and not have the kundalini energy rise a significant portion. Kundalini energy is a very specific type of connection to divine oneness and deserves an article all its own. 

This is all I care to touch on for now. Sexual transmutation and discipline are very valuable things to know and very extensive. I plan to elaborate with more articles in the future. 

Please know I am not preaching abstinence in this article. I simply believe people should have as much information as possible to make their decisions off of. If you are called to walk a spiritual path, know that many aspects of our world are the exact opposite of what you are seeking or have been brought up to know. In many ways, it has always been like that.

Whatever path you walk, I support you every step of the way!

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May your seeking be fruitful and your findings bountiful!


Tools of The Spirit

Within the past few decades, there has been an explosion of books, videos, speakers and research articles surrounding every aspect of what we know as the broad umbrella of “metaphysics”. Science is now backing up the benefits of what yogis, mystics, shamans and other spiritual teachers have been saying for centuries. The “spiritual path” as people call it, is becoming mainstream and I believe this to be a very good thing. 

However, something I have also noticed is an increase in spiritual superiority, or a term I think is more fun to say, hippie-crit. Zach Alexander calls it spiritual bypassing and some other individuals like Teal Swan have also discussed this occurrence. What it comes down to is individuals using their spiritual connection or metaphysical knowledge to promote basic egoic needs for reputation, superiority and exhalation over others. 

I am writing this article to share some of my spiritual philosphoies. If you choose to adopt them, or maybe you already practice them, then it should be by your own reflection on what I have to say. My opinions and thoughts are purely to help others reflect on their own. 

I also want to make clear I am not trying to knock anyone or anything. I think the fact people are becoming more engaged with spirit is a generally good thing and everyone starts their journey from a different place. However, I want my readers to be conscious, and consider the difference between applying metaphysics and practicing spiritual principles.

Let’s dive into it.

It is my belief that metaphysics is like a tool and spirituality is like the tool user. A knife can be used to prepare a meal for your family but it can also be used to harm another individual. The knife is objective in its purpose and function. Ultimately, it is the person using the knife who decides how it is going to be used. 

When we engage with any facet of metaphysics, whether it be kundalini yoga, no-mind meditation, magick or any of the other hundred forms, we are learning to use the “tools” of spiritual development. By learning to use the tools we also learn about ourselves and one would hope we become more conscious about how thoughts and behaviors. However, our Ego is always adapting. This is why it is a lifelong journey.

I think just having minimal engagement with these things can be very beneficial and because of that, I see a lot of people stop shortly after getting started. Maybe they continue the practices they already have like doing yoga three times a week, but that offers diminishing returns of depth or expansion. Just like in school, you don’t finish Algebra One then take Algebra One next year to make sure you really know the quadratic equation. No, you go on to Algebra Two and expand your knowledge of the study while still going back and using what you already learned.

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Spiritual growth is the same way.

All too frequently I see people use their knowledge of the tools as a means of spiritual superiority. It becomes a scapegoat for saying “I am better than you because….” and what was a tool for Spirit becomes a tool for Ego. A lot of times, people don’t even know they are doing it. It often is shown in the energy someone has, how they carry themselves, the way they talk. Not everyone notices these things, but I believe those of us who are attuned to subtle energies can likely think of a time they noticed this. 

This is not to say these qualities aren’t human. We all want to be respected by our peers and regardless of where we are on the path, the truth is everyone falls back into old behaviors. There is even a story in the bible of Jesus throwing tables and kicking people out of the temple (Matthew 21:12-13), but we can’t do anything about the behavior without reflection and admission.

For me the process looks like this. I first need to reflect on which behaviors may have caused harm to others, physical, mental, emotional or other. Then I reflect on how I would rather have acted in that situation. Finally, I need to admit myself I am still human and it might be awhile before I walk on water. I can’t speak for how anyone else grows spiritually. I can only share what has worked for me to bring me peace of mind and connectedness. 

For me, the essence of spirituality comes down to how we treat others. The people I get along with are blessings. The people that make me want to pull my hair out are the lessons. Patience and tolerance with others is a huge part of my spiritual growth. I could levitate six inches off the ground meditating in the mountains but what good does that do me if I am shouting and swearing at others as soon as I’m stuck in 5 o’clock traffic?

I believe every person has to figure out for themselves how they wish to live their lives. It is more than okay to admit I have behaviors or principles I don’t want to change. I believe coming conscious of those is what gives someone stability and direction in their own life. If I do that then at least I’m not acting from someone else’s influence. 

I hope this article has provided you with some veins of thought or ideas to reflect on in your own life. As the late Ram Dass says, “We’re all just walking each other home”. If you found the article helpful make sure to like and share it with others. Also make sure to connect with me on social media to get updates on new content.

May your seeking be fruitful and your findings bountiful!